The following is a page I stole from Ed Thompson at
Bringing the Family Together
There is a lot of confusion about the term ‘cousin’, especially as it relates to distant cousins. The concept of ‘first cousin’, ‘second cousin’, etc… is hard enough, but what the heck is a ‘first cousin once removed’? Why are they removed? Did they do something wrong? How can I get MY cousin removed?
So I am going to take a stab at explaining the concept, complete with pictures.
Warning, having this knowledge will NOT make you popular with friends and family. I can tell you from personal experience THEY DON”T WANT TO KNOW. If you thought that having this insight would make you the belle of the family reunion, stop reading NOW!
Still here? OK, we will start off easy: Rose and Ruth are sisters. They both have kids. Those kids are first cousins. Their grand kids are second cousins. Their great grand kids are third cousins. Perhaps a picture…
- Eddie and Johnny are first cousins because they share the same grandparents.
- Eddie Jr and Johnny Jr are second cousins because they share the same great grandparents.
- Susy and Vicki are third cousins becasue they share the same great great grandparents.
Notice that all the arrows stay in their own generation. Another way to think of it is ‘first generation of cousins’, ‘second generation of cousins’, ‘third generation of cousins’ (all relative to the sisters that started this whole thing).
But what happens if we cross generations?
What about Johnny and Eddie Jr? Or Eddie and Vicki? They’re related too, aren’t they?
Well, yes they are..
In this picture, since Eddie and Johnny are FIRST cousins, Eddie and Johnny’s kid, Johnny Jr, are FIRST cousins ONCE removed. They are removed by one generation, which is another way of saying they are separated by one generation.
Eddie and Vicki? FIRST cousins, TWICE removed, since they are separated by TWO generations.
If we continue in this manner, since Eddie Jr and Johnny Jr are SECOND cousins, then Eddie Jr and Vicki are SECOND cousins, ONCE removed.
Are we even related?
At what point are we so far apart it doesn’t even matter? Well, that is up to you and your family, but technically, as long as you share a common ancestry, you are still related. 1st cousin 23 time removed? Sure, cause it all goes back to those two sisters.
Cousins by marriage
What about Eddie and Johnny’s spouses – are they related? Is Mrs. Johnny Eddies first cousin by marriage? ‘First cousin-in-law’?
The answer is tricky, and I will cop out by saying it’s a cultural thing – some cultures recognize that kind of ancestry, some don’t. In the US, not so much.
But are Eddie and Mrs. Johnny family? Well, that depends on how one defines family. There are a whole lot of cultural mores and obligations that go with defining someone as family. My definition of family may be broader than yours.
Personally, if I eat Mrs Johnny’s potato salad at Aunt Ruth’s 79th birthday party, I consider her family.
Hopefully you found this helpful. I’ll close by saying that not ALL family relations can be defined.
In the words of The Youngbloods:
Come on people now
Smile on your brother
Everybody get together
Try to love one another right now
There’s more on this subject at Wikipedia.com.
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